Hello, I ask the moderators to publish my story, thanks in advance! Because I have no one to share it with and it is very difficult for me! So hello again, I'm a 15-year-old girl. About a year and a half ago I started going to a sport, even before the first training I was skeptical, because I didn't like the sport in general. When the coach appeared, I experienced something I had never been to before. now. Something nice as if I fell in love, of course I did not like this sport, but I continued to walk just to be able to see the coach. closer, I already like the sport itself, but I always go with desire, because I know that I will see it, I am in love with it, I love it terribly very much, I am very happy that we are such good friends! Every time we are together I feel a lot of hints from her if I can say so in the sense that she also has feelings for me, but there is a problem she is 35. I don't care that she is older. years old, I'm much more mature for my age and she is with my mind, all our interests are the same! She is not married or has children, I think she is a lesbian or would be sexual, I have a lot of evidence and all this points! Once she looked on the phone and I was next to her and she was showing me something, suddenly she raised her head and we were at a distance of 3 cm for we were going to kiss at least I think so, but I pulled away! So my first question is: am I a lesbian because I've always liked boys and now I like them again, but I have feelings for her and I mean there are guys who just like him, and I'm in love with her as much as I think! The second question is:
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Oh, exactly the same situation! Except that she's with a teacher and I'm younger than you, I just thought I was the only one. Well, for me, I think it's starting to go away, because I've been in love with her for three years now, she's 35 too, but she's married, she has children
Child, all these thoughts about bisexuality are on a psychological basis. Maybe you are hurt by the opposite sex and look at the other for reassurance. Talk to your mother and tell her about these emotional bouts of falling in love with this girl, she will certainly give you wise advice. Otherwise, for me, lesbians and gays are wrong. Don't let an inner whim change your essence.
It is very likely that there are certain situations in your family, or when you were younger, that have led you to look for an emotional entanglement with a woman who may be a kind of mother figure. I think you're confused and you can't even say what you are like at this stage, although I personally think you're mostly heterosexual. By the way, you can't think that a 35-year-old woman has a mindset like yours, even if it seems that way to you. In addition, there are many women aged 35 and over who do not have men and children but are heterosexual. What you are doing is falling into the so-called tendency to confirm, which is a kind of delusion. This is when you interpret the facts in a way that takes precedence over your own ideas about things (see Wikipedia for more info if you're interested). Diversify your life more is my advice.
2 and 3 Please stop with this nonsense! It was on a mental basis. Since when is love a mental problem? Hello, I am also bisexual, but I am smaller than you. I want to tell you that if you are attracted to both females and males, then you are bisexual. Give yourself some time, rethink things, and if things point out that you are bisexual, then act! In love, age, religion and skin color do not matter! After all, everything is love ...
Number 2: "Otherwise, for me, lesbians and gays are wrong." We are in the 21st century, for God's sake. Being gay is normal and completely natural. I'm tired of homophobes, you're wrong. You will meet all kinds of people in your life and you must learn to respect those who are different from you. It's like a homosexual person calling you wrong just because you're not like him. How does it feel like?
Dear author, My personal impressions show that about 50% of those who identify as heterosexual, women I know (lesbians do not count them) or have had intimate contact or at least allow such with another woman, although they generally prefer men. So at least in this part there is nothing abnormal. (Men, on the other hand, are rarely truly bisexual - if a man is hetero, the chance of admitting another man into his intimate perimeter tends to be 0 - I wouldn't, no matter how liberal I am to any nonviolent sexual practice). I'm a little bothered by the age difference. In general, it doesn't work - no matter what gender the partners are - it's just that different ages are looking for different things, and often sexual attraction is the only link. Not that there are no exceptions. I just had not one, but several in mind about what, with whom, etc. you do. And last but not least - society is vicious. Keep that in mind - if things work out, and you and she can take the negatives - not because you're doing something so bad, it's just that an unpleasant number of people will find it a convenient occasion to spit on you. Terrible, but a fact. Otherwise - I sincerely hope things go well for you. Good luck!