Hello! I'm a girl and I wonder if it would be an ugly thing if I didn't go to the ball? Especially if I'm the only one? If I choose not to go again, I will feel like a hermit, but this time I will not care, because I will not meet my class again and I hope in the future I will meet people with whom we will be on the same page and, with who will no longer feel like an outsider. I never felt accepted by my class. I just don't have any points of contact with them and I know that I won't have as much fun as they do (and I don't like gypsies and hangovers). For me, the experience will not have the same value as for them. That's why it seems completely pointless to give so much money (which I didn't even win, but my parents) for one night. Especially considering that for years I have been dreaming of traveling outside Bulgaria, and the money which I can give for the ball are my only chance to travel. But if I refuse to go to the ball, I will feel bad, as if I have acted very ugly, given that everyone else will be there. What do you think?
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M 31 I felt like an outsider in my class. However, I went to the ball and it was not good at all. If you don't want to walk, don't walk. This is not an ugly thing to do. If you do not intend to keep in touch with classmates, it is still a question of whether you will go.
No, it's money that you decide if you want to spend, and if you're 10,000 percent sure it doesn't work, but my prom was really wonderful and you only have it once in your life, no one said it had to be expensive. I didn't have an expensive dress, I was without make-up, I straightened my hair ... You can celebrate it only with friends and family, not with a class and with the rest of the money to go abroad.
I think if you don't go, in time you will regret it. You don't have to throw thousands of levs for the ball, for example, I bought a simple suit for a hundred levs - nothing kitschy, and then I used it on other occasions. Anyway - an elegant dress will suffice, you will invite the closest relatives and that's it.
Do not comply with other people's opinion at all, but do as you see fit. If you go with your class all night you will feel lonely and bored and then you will regret that you wasted so much money, time and nerves on people you don't even like. And you can always celebrate the prom at a restaurant with your family and loved ones. Believe me, you will definitely have a very good time :)
And I think the money given to the ball is too much. Unfortunately, under pressure from my parents, I will have to attend. Just go for about 2 hours and go home, and if you have the opportunity not to do a ball extra. Life is ahead of you when it comes to travel, and I've always wanted to drive around Europe in a private car, but unfortunately the damn money we can't be happy without.
Once you have decided not to go, there is no problem, this is your decision. The class will grumble about you because of the resort, the teachers don't pay if they bring a certain number of children. Life is in front of you, live it as you choose!
If you don't feel like walking, don't walk, and I don't think you'll regret not going
Once upon a time, like you, I wondered whether to go or not. I went. :) I had a good time. Go and say goodbye to your classmates and high school. Drink a drink with a smile, which will end one period of your life and enter another - student :) No one should overshadow your success - you have completed high school. This is a success, a great success. Successes are watered;)
Go, it's too early for you to be an outsider. Be among the people! Learn to be among them and communicate, even if you don't like it. You are just starting your life and you will need it. At university, at work. If you master the ability to communicate, you will have a really successful life. Isolating yourself and avoiding the world will lead you to loneliness, bitterness and poverty.
Go. If you don't like it - well, one night, what's up? But otherwise you may be wondering what it would be like if she left. My advice and hot recommendation is to go. More bucket! :) Ж
First, answer the question of who these "All Others" are. Are they close to you, do you enjoy them and do you really want to spend your time with them drinking alcohol and dancing to a powerful noise called music. Not a bad time spent among happy, smiling people, happy for some reason. Hey, this video explains a very key thing
They will not notice that you are not there;) If you are a close brotherhood and you want to be in the picture and after years to support and help each other - go.