Suppose you start a relationship with someone and everything goes well. He seems in love with you, and you with him. But one day his ex-partner writes to you to tell you that he is looking for her to see her and makes obscene proposals. He shows you correspondence, and everything is as he says. Would you like to know that, and would you be grateful that she told you? Even if he doesn't want to separate you, but just tells you to be careful and that it's not fair to you? If you were in her place, would you tell the new one that you are still wanted? How would you react after that?
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I would like to know and I would like to thank you, it's awful for someone else to know how they make you miserable in front of everyone. Whether I would do the same depends a lot on the chick herself. (Whether she was the reason for the separation or not, whether they knew him and whether she knew me ..)
This topic is very relevant for me and I will follow the comments with interest. I am facing such a dilemma: should I tell my new girlfriend that in fact her lover even denies having anything to do with her and is looking for me quite insistently :)))) At times I even feel sorry for her, but in the next moment I say to myself "She has a head on her shoulders, let her judge it, I won't be confused" And the gentleman and I broke up for this very reason, and I wish someone had come at the beginning to open my eyes to his games
Yes, I would be grateful to the woman for helping me figure out what kind of liar I'm sleeping with. And a lot of it, because some men deliberately lead 2-3 people for fun and lie to them.
Oh, it's complicated. Of course, I would like to know everything that concerns me in order to react in time. Nobody wants to live in a lie. However, if I were the former, I would not tell the new one. Not because of her, but because of yourself - you don't know what kind of mess you can get into like that. You just have to read to your ex's horse that he's doing nonsense and deciding if he wants to be with this girl, and then stop dealing with them forever. This is not your battle.