I am a man of 35. Some time ago I fell in love with a girl who was brutally different from everyone else, very smart and beautiful. However, I was in a very dull moment in my life, and she, too, ended up behaving like a complete jerk. She couldn't stand it and left me. Immediately after that, I caught up with another. They say that love is treated with love and only for a while, but we have been together for 2 years and more. That's nice, but I don't stop thinking about my ex-girlfriend. On her birthday, I deliberately over-care for my girlfriend, just so I don't think about her. In my life, everything is connected with her, even though we no longer have anything in common and are not together. My girlfriend and I got engaged at the end of last year, we will get married in a short time, but I am incredibly unhappy. I'm glad I'm moving forward and I won't be alone, I have a chance for a family, but I can't get it out of my head that I'm making the wrong choice and marrying the wrong person. I keep thinking that if I had behaved normally with my ex, she wouldn't have left me ... I don't know what to do. I feel like I was in a hurry and made one of the biggest mistakes of my life.
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As long as it's time, you can always change that.
Go back to your ex, what's stopping you? How can a person prepare a wedding with someone he does not love. Because of people's opinion and age, did you dare to get married or did someone in your family quarrel with you about grandchildren? Either way, if you feel that you are making a mistake, then it is really a mistake and neither time nor man.
Man, you are 35, if you do not have feelings and love with your current girlfriend, leave her, do not lie to her and yourself, you will feel sorry for each other in time, let alone have a child. You are young, you will find the man for you. was that after parting with your ex you very quickly reconnected, your feelings remained and the image of the front sae in your head, the memories with her, etc.
Very simple - call your ex and tell her to find out if there is a chance to try again, if not - her way. Keep in mind that sometimes we idealize people we don't see and you may not be in love with her, but with the idea of her. My experience is that when I came back, we broke up again. There was a reason we broke up the first time. And your fiancée set her free if you don't love her - and she deserves more, and you. If there is no love, getting married will not make you happier. You will meet another and you will not be left alone, do not worry.
Hi, it's the author. I don't know if I should try. I left with my girlfriend literally immediately after parting with the girl in question. My ex-girlfriend felt very hurt by this and had even made the movie that I cheated on her during our relationship with the new girl next to me. He didn't take it well at all and drove me everywhere. I want to explain to her, but it's all like that, so confused. And this with "not seeing" and unrealistic ideas, I do not know how true. My current girlfriend and I live in different cities and see each other several times a year, while my ex was almost in the neighborhood and my idea of her can not be invented. I know all her features - both bad and good, and yet something draws me to her. But my girlfriend is so kind, caring and loving to me that my heart won't let me ruin the engagement and move on on our own.
Typical male stupidity. You kept quiet when you didn't have to. I wouldn't go back to you, to think in time, not to pretend to be a turnover man. Your poor future wife ...
Boy, be sure to break this engagement. Your current girlfriend doesn't deserve a relationship without feelings, and neither do you. Be sure to contact your ex.
Author, I'm 35 and in a situation close to yours. The difference with me is that I am alone, but I have known a girl like your fiancée for a long time. In fact, she is exactly the woman I have always dreamed of. There is not a single thing that made a bad impression on me. The problem is that I just don't have any thrills. We hadn't heard from each other for about 3 years and a few weeks ago I decided to try again if something would come out - well, nothing new. We wrote to each other for a few days, but without any emotion, as it was before. A common acquaintance (actually she introduced us) has always hinted to me that the girl in question likes me and I trust her because she is not one of those people who deal with gossip or get involved in relationships between people. From this liking, however, I could not feel anything. We just talk like good friends and that's it. I don't think it's hard to fall in love, on the contrary, just one gesture is enough to awaken the feelings in me. I'm probably losing a lot, but obviously nothing will happen with this girl. It just doesn't come from inside me and I don't see the point in misleading both of us.
Super naughty you use your current girlfriend, and she poor thing probably believes you love her. The problem is not that you make the wrong choice - you have the right to fuck yourself as much as you want, but the girl did not deserve to be fucked next to you.
Here they all advise you to contact your ex, but I don't think so .... You had a chance with her, you fucked him ... Most of the people who commented here are dreamers ... The harsh reality is something else, you're not 35 child you made a mistake, but this is not a super mario - you die and be reborn .... Go ahead and do not repeat the same mistake with your current wife ... Life sends you a lesson do not be a recidivist .... Do not be alone in the end, time is running out, they call you here, you are young, but you are 35, not 25 ....
To Number 11 So what, do you suggest the person disguise the problem? He obviously has an unresolved issue with his ex-girlfriend, with whom he needs to talk, whether he would like to start a relationship again or not. From a purely human point of view, the problem should not hang, because it deepens and at some point begins to interfere. In this case, the understanding with the former can lead to calmness about the new relationship, to clarification of feelings and a clear view of everything. As for age, people get married and start a family at the age of 50. Others do not get there all their lives because it is not their priority. It's still how old the author is, he just has to really solve the problems of his past before he takes the final step for his future.