Hello friends. I am a girl of 15 and I hope you help me because I am quite confused. I have been dealing with a boy for about 45 months. He is in 11th grade, but he is here in Bulgaria only for the holidays, otherwise he lives in Italy. We had a lot of weird, funny and difficult situations, at least for me, but despite everything he always manages to make me smile. I'm looking for just such a person, but I don't know if distance will be an obstacle. There was a moment when I gave up on him, I just didn't think it was worth it and I went out with another boy, with whom we later became boyfriends. I've been with him for about 3 weeks now, but I realized that my feelings for the other boy haven't cooled down and I don't know if it will be useful to try to replace him with another one. Maybe I'll be able to forget him, but if I can't I'll hurt this boy I'm with, and I don't know if I want to forget him, I am confused not for anything else, but for the fact that he is far away and I do not know if this will happen. As much as the other boy is good, he understands me, but I can't be me, the one I really am, with the boy I have feelings for, I can, but not with him. It's as if I'm not in my environment and something inside me is rebelling. Please give me some advice. Thank you in advance.
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I don't know if I should disappoint you ... For me, distance is a huge problem and I say it from personal experience. There can always be a connection from a distance, another question is what you want your connection to be. Let's say you have a relationship. You will rarely see him, you will always have doubts if he is cheating on you, it will not be a real relationship, you will suffer a lot when he is not with you. It is not easy, but it is not impossible. The choice is yours, think about how you will feel in both cases and whether it is worth it.
Listen to your heart. The best advice in my opinion. TT
I just want to clarify for this sentence "I've been dealing with a boy for about 45 months." Maybe the mistake is mine I don't know, but it must be "4-5 months"
Thank you very much. Number 1, you're absolutely right, but I've had feelings for him for a long time, and even when he was there, we had our own things that connected us, even though we weren't together. I don't know which is better, because I don't know if I will forget it easily. I would try, but if it doesn't, I'll hurt the other boy, and he doesn't deserve it. I don't know what to do, friends. I'm confused, and to some extent he is also guilty, because when I forget him a little, he returns with a bang ...